4 Things that Stress Me Out (a Lot) as a Blogger + an Obviously Cure-all List of Things to Do to Lessen the Pressure

This post is brought to you by my forever stressing-out-freaking-out mind!!

It was also inspired by this post by Julianna, and also this post by Marie, so be sure to check those out too!

But basically: I’m an eternally stressed-out person. I can only remember a few times I was stress-free, and what took its place was apathy and feeling just absolutely dead, and that was almost worse than stress.

And blogging isn’t exempt from causing me stress—in fact, it’s put a lot of pressure on me to the point that it affected my health. But I’m slowly slowly climbing back up from that Bad Mental Place I’ve been in for the past few, uh, months and I’m really hoping that I’ll be able to blog the way I did before! She says, coming back from a week-long hiatus.

Because I was in that Bad Mental Place, I noticed a lot of ways that blogging was negatively affecting me, mostly in ways of STRESS and PRESSURE, so I decided to talk about a few of those things, and also provide tips to lessen that stress!!

P.S. I was going to include more stress-inducing things related to blogging but then I just ran out? Okay. Cool. I totally didn’t abandon blogging because of just FOUR things. But there is also the pressure to be/appear perfect, which I talked about before!

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1. replying to comments

My #1 stress at the moment is replying to comments. God, I used to be SO GOOD at this. Like, I’d be notified of a comment and 30 seconds later I’d have it liked and replied to. I talked to people in SO many comments in one thread. I even *gasp* used to have all my comments replied to before I wrote a new post!

But now, I still have comments to reply to from March. Last month. And it keeps piling up, because I write a new post without replying to old comments, so there are more and more unanswered comments. I just ???? how does blogging work again????

(If you see my replying to comments from posts that were published over a month ago… Hi. That’s me trying to catch up. Ridicule me all you want.)

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2. commenting on other posts

My problem here is that: I read posts. I LOVE to read posts. I read almost all the posts on my Reader that pop up each day.

But I never… comment on them.

At least, not anymore. I used to comment on blogs daily, when I followed 100+ blogs. And even now when I’m following only 55 blogs, I comment on about 2 posts a day.

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Obviously, it’s not an OBLIGATION to comment on posts! It’s what’s deemed something a “good blogger” would do, and we all know that not even the best blogger can comment on every single blog they follow every single day (looking at you, Marie).

But there’s that underlying pressure to be a “good blogger” and therefore comment on a lot of posts. So we all feel the need to comment and keep up with posts, even though our health should come before that.

Lately, I just have had no motivation to interact with people. It’s probably mental health-related, and something I’ll “get over eventually”. (Which is something you should never say to a mentally ill person, and yet here I am saying it to myself.)

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3. formatting (& polishing)

JASDLFKJSLDK;FASD FORMATTING IS THE BANE OF MY EXISTENCE I SWEAR.

Like, I know my posts look nicely-formatted and everything (and I will NOT be modest about this because I spend too much time on formatting to be humble), but it is actual TORTURE.

Sometimes the code doesn’t work, or I copy-and-paste the wrong code for the entire post and have to redo it, or images won’t format the way I want it to, or I think I have everything done before realizing I need to link a bunch of things, and it’s JUST. SO. FRUSTRATING.

Or when I’m making my featured image, the downloaded image won’t load into Canva, or the featured image won’t upload to WordPress, or there are too many chunks of text so I have to place awkward gifs to separate them and the look is just… not even a look.

(See all gifs awwardly placed in this post. Also all my gifs in my posts will be vines and I do not apologize for this.)

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4. actually… reading?

Sometimes, I feel a lot of pressure to read x amount of books, or to read x book since everyone’s reading it. I think a LOT of bloggers have talked about the pressure to read in the bookish community, whether it’s feeling like you read enough or if you read the right books or if you’re reading all the latest popular releases.

Another thing is Goodreads Reading Challenges! I admit that those kind of goals help motivate me, and I feel happy whenever I reach my goal or I’m on track/ahead of schedule, but being BEHIND schedule stresses me out. And not in a motivational way.

DO YOU SEE THIS. ONE BOOK BEHIND SCHEDULE. JUST ONE BOOK.

And I also put a lot of pressure on myself? For example, I usually take about 3 days to read an average-length YA novel, and I usually read about 9 books a month. * So I generally try to read 9 books a month and feel kinda sad when I don’t. Which is totally ridiculous.

Other things that pressure me are: ARCs/review copies (not reading them in time, having a lot of blog reviews to post and thinking I won’t get as much interaction), reviews (I have like 15+ reviews to write this is a reasonable stress), if I’m enjoying or hating books “too much” (RIDICULOUS, I KNOW).

*Well technically I should be reading 10 books a month if I take about 3 days to read a book and—SEE, this is the EXACT kind of pressure I’m talking about.

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HOW TO LESSEN THE PRESSURE

Now obviously, these tips aren’t going to cure ALL of your problems (despite the misleading, clickbaity title of this post). I mean if they worked, I’d be over here completely stress-free.

BUT!! These are things that have helped me in the past and are currently helping me get out of my blogging rut*, and just talking about them makes me feel calm and at peace.

  • TAKE A BREAK! This is probably the answer you’ll hear from all bloggers if you tell them that you’re stressed out or feeling burnt out. BUT IT WORKS. I haven’t taken an official break (still posting, as you can see), but I’m posting less and not really caring about comments or posts to comment on and it’s HELPING. Just spend a few weeks without any kind of blogging obligation, and it’ll make you feel refreshed, especially when you come back!

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  • Do things that make you happy! Now this might be a little obvious? But god, if you’re feeling pressured and stressed and starting to panic, just stop and do something that makes you HAPPY and not stressed! For me, this is reading, because once I’m in that “zone”, I’m in it, and I won’t worry or think about any pressing things on my mind. (There’s a chance that the book is bad but… still.)
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  • Relax! This is, again, also a little bit obvious, but SUPER SUPER helpful. I’ve found that listening to music relaxes me (as well as reading / using any coloring apps like I Love Hue). Take a bath, watch a movie, cook yourself a good meal or dessert and ENJOY it. I know that this is hard to do for some time-pressured people, but even spending just 3 minutes to close your eyes and listen to music can help!
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  • Distract yourself! This goes with the two previous points, but if you need a distraction from your thoughts or worries, FIND ONE. It often involves doing something that you enjoy or relaxes you, but sometimes it can just involve talking to people, or watching something, or maybe even playing a video game that requires your full attention.
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  • Or… rant about your problems. I’ve found both distraction and ranting SUPER helpful. (Sometimes I even rant about completely different issues to distract myself.) See: this whole post. It’s one big rant about what’s been stressing me out blogging-wise. AND IT’S HELPING ME. I feel more myself than I have in a long time.**
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  • Make schedules! Now, this obviously doesn’t work for everyone. Even for a schedule-type person like me who found schedules really helpful, it’s not really doing much for motivation or pressure at the moment. But! Planning out posts, when you need to read/review review copies, deciding a day to blog hop/reply to comments—all of that can POSSIBLY help you feel less stressed.
as you can see, I did not stick to my schedule. the only posts I plan on posting now are the Furyborn review (THIS MONTH! JUST LIKE I PLANNED!) and the one crossed out that I’m excited about
  • Write a mock post. Just write it. Not for anyone else’s eyes but yours. Not for anyone else’s benefit but yours. I did this a few days ago, a whole post about my current mental health struggles. I didn’t publish it. I probably never will. But it helped a lot, because I wasn’t writing it to be published or to get comments or to stay on schedule. It was just something I wanted to do, something that was “fun” to me in a way. For some reason, writing posts (like this one) really makes me fall in love with blogging again / even more, and I think it might for others as well!

*Who even uses this word anymore.
**Meaning: Ranting on my blog makes me feel more me than anything else. I don’t know whether this is pathetic or encouraging.


shall we chat

what other things stress you out as a blogger? (i hope i forgot a lot and there isn’t just FOUR things that have stressed me out) what kind of things do you do to lessen the blogging pressure? or any type of pressure? are you a schedule person? a ranter?

i hope these tips help y’all, because i hd out like me! please PLEASE take care of yourself; i haven’t been doing that and it’s not good for me at all. you are more important than any blog, despite what you may think, and you have to TREAT! YOURSELF! WITH! LOVE!

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35 thoughts on “4 Things that Stress Me Out (a Lot) as a Blogger + an Obviously Cure-all List of Things to Do to Lessen the Pressure

  1. Ahh yes I totally feel you! What I’ve been trying to do is when I sit down each week to prepare my new posts, I try to respond to comments from the following week. But it doesn’t always work out, heh heh. XD And yessss formatting takes forever! Something weird with me tho is that I’ve actually managed to read a ton so far… I’m at 38 books and 7 ahead of schedule. But I’ve been reading so fast that I don’t enjoy the story as much, so I’m gonna cut back. 😉

    Anyway, awesome post dear! The struggle is real when it comes to blogging. XD

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  2. Thank you for this post May. And thank you for your total transparency! I hope you continue to feel better. I agree with all the pressures that you listed especially about pressure to read a certain amount I am such a slow reader and have to try not to compare myself to everyone else out there. And I think it is really important for people to just take a break when they need to. Doing things I love and distracting myself with my favourite books or TV shows are my favourite ways to do this.

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  3. I think I was able to alleviate some of my own pressure by reading this post. Just posting something stresses me out sometimes because I want my posts to be good: relatable, informative, and have a certain. Doesn’t always happen which is frustrating!

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  4. Blogging can definitely be so difficult! There are just so many aspects of it to think about all the time, and it can be hard to keep up with them! I loved this post because I relate so much!

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  5. thanks for sharing may! I totally know what you mean by feeling pressure to read and comment and all that stuff. sometimes it’s good to take a break! I’m sure everyone will understand 🙂

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  6. The pressure on bloggers is real; the stress even more so! I had a couple of months where I succeeded at posting every. single. day. I still don’t know what got into me, but I do know it was impossible to keep up – and that was exactly what my brain wanted me to do. “Hey, it’s doable! Just keep it up! Post every day even though you’re so not feeling it!” I had a really hard time taking a step back from that because “what of my stats?! they’ll go down the drain?!” and they are. and I don’t care.
    I seriously believe that to get rid of the stress, we have to take the huge step towards caring less. Hard step to take but it.. is soooo important and feels amazing when we’re able to do it?

    Also YES TO THE COMMENTS. I don’t know what it is but lately I sometimes think “Okay, I’m posting this and can please NOBODY COMMENT. because I’m simply not up to going through them?” Okay. I do go through them. Eventually. But.. yeah. :’)
    Commenting on blogposts: check. I loved to do it, but lately I’m feeling somewhat of a lurker. I like reading posts, liking posts but I never feel like actually commenting anymore. Sorry. :’) [Like, this is legit the first substantial comment in days and I don’t want to know how many posts I’ve read since then.]

    All of this is soooo relatable.. :’)

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  7. I get youuuuu! You’re not the only one, May, really you’re not. Take it easy, don’t feel the pressure too much, no one will think you’re a ‘bad blogger’, you’re just one who’s concerned for their own welfare and rightly so! Your posting schedule looks AMAZING. eeeeee, I can’t wait. Loads of love xxxx

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  8. I love your suggestions and some aren’t so typical in the blogosphere- I get stressed over the whole consistent schedule of posts thing but have sorta stopped with worrying about that and now like it way more again!
    And re comments – if I comment and never get a response or get one a decade later, I don’t think much of it. I also have been bad replying at the few comments I get or the responses? Then awkwardly like them 2 months later.. it happens

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  9. I write drafts and pieces that will never see the light of day and this absolutely helps me feel less pressured about writing a post. I don’t have a name for it but now I’m calling them mock posts 😁

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  10. Hey there May!!
    I’ll keep this short, reading this post!
    FAM, I LOVE YOUR BLOG!! However much time between your posts doesn’t matter – I STILL AM OVERJOYED WHEN I SEE YOU HAVE A NEW POST! Sorry for the all caps – I’m not screaming! – but I’m happy/excited 🙂
    As to comments: I follow three blogs. THREE. And I make an effort to check in, read, and maybe I’ll leave a comment if I like it 🙂 Don’t stress over not responding! I’ve left comments over the past year that the authors haven’t responded to, and I’ve moved on (not you, though! I like you!)
    Formatting – HA! do you know how many times Weebly has decided to not corporate, italics haven’t copied over from Docs, and my sloooooow internet has given me a blank photo when I know I uploaded one yesterday?? You’re not alone!! 🙂
    Keep your head up, May!
    All the best,
    Little Lion, STSI

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  11. I FEEL ATTACKED 😂😂😂 but seriously, I’m far from being a great blogger and I know I spend a lot of time interacting and commenting, you’re right that we can’t do it all, it is physically impossible. there are too many posts, too many blogs, just TOO MANY EVERYTHING 😂
    I loved this post so much, May, thank you for sharing all of your struggles. I feel the exact same way about everything, really. I feel like I have to be on top of commenting (aerm…..you know that 😂) and I put an insane pressure on myself when it comes to answering to comments and blog hopping etc. I know that’s not good and sometimes I need a break, too. BREAKS are great and always make me feel better. Writing posts, too, I’m so glad I’m not the only one feelin better when I rant about blogging 😂 And YES to schedulin, I love have a schedule and sticking to it, it definitely lessen the pressure. There is nothing I manage to do about reading, though. I want to always read more, I never feel like I am reading enough. I know I’m already reading a lot considered that I work full time all the time, but… still, it never feels like enough and I hate that pressure I put on myself haha.
    Loved this post!! ❤

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  12. I absolutely and completely get what you’re saying here.
    I loved this post because I love how you’re so straightforward about the fact that you’re taking it easy. Because honestly, lately I’ve beeen feeling just BLAH at the fact that I ruined a new schedule I just made.
    But I’ve realized the choreographing the days I post isn’t for me, and thank you for this post! iT was just so raw and real and I loved it!

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  13. i lovelovelove this post. queen of honesty. queen of responsibility. queen of self-care.

    taking a break is my favorite thing ever. i advocate for it so hard. honestly i feel like i take micro-breaks a few days a week anyway, b/c i don’t usually like and comment on posts when i’m between posts. also lately i haven’t even kept a hypothetical schedule in mind that i’d like to meet?? i just post when i feel like it and try not to let too much time pass between. but also who cares.

    anyway i love you i love your blog and i just remembered i haven’t opened kik in a long ass time

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  14. I’m an eternally stressed out person as well May, and there’s so much that goes into blogging and being a part of the community that it’s no surprise this can be stressful at times too right? 🙂 I love your tips to help with the stress too, I think taking a break is the main one because if you’re not enjoying blogging because you are too stressed you can sometimes tell in posts and in comments, and if you try and force the issue you’ll just end up burning out and that’s never a good thing. Schedules have helped me out a lot when it comes to blogging, but at the same time I have a bad habit of falling behind which just ends up stressing me out a little more, it’s a never ending cycle. 🙂
    Great post, and oh I hope you start feeling better in yourself soon. 🙂 ❤

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  15. This post was so nice and helpful to read – thank you for being so open about how you blog. I’ve only just started but I can see how it can get overwhelming, especially if you get behind on the reading (actual books and comments) aspects of it. Since I’m so new, it’s actually working to motivate me to read and produce stuff, even though I work a lot. I’ve been pretty down the last few months, but the bookish community is so lovely and just getting stuff out has been so nice, it’s actually helping me focus on reading (instead of just lying there watching stuff (which I still do lol but around that I’m doing other things again finally)).

    Take care! And I hope you’re having a fab day 🙂

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  16. Awesome post! I totally feel you, I suffer from the same problems, especially the one about commenting on others’ posts and formatting and polishing posts. I used to comment on other posts a lot before but gradually I’ve just…stopped. I’m slowly trying to get back into that habit though. And formatting posts? I’m absolutely TERRIBLE at it. I do love all the solutions you’ve mentioned though! They all help me keep the pressure at bay 🙂

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  17. Thank you for writing this, May!❤️ Your tips are really helpful and quality. I try really hard to not let blogging stress me out, because at the end of the day it’s a hobby, but sometimes it feels impossible. I hope you continue to destress and just take your time! The Internet isn’t going anywhere. 😉

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  18. Commenting and commenting back are SO STRESSFUL. Sometimes I don’t have any idea what to say? But I don’t want to write. Ha, yes. Good post. I mean, just four words? Why is this so hard? And it used to bother me A LOT when I publish a post before replying to all the comments on the previous posts. But now I do not care. I mean, I care. But not THAT much.
    Writing Ranting posts is so fun and stress relieving. it’s kind of hilarious how stress relieving is it, and you wonder if anyone wants to read your rant, but then yes, this rant is for me. SO all people must read it.

    HOW do you manage to only follow 55 blogs? I’m following 300+ right now and I’m about to go insane. It’s just too much. *weeps in a corner because of my silliness* Like, I want to follow this one, and that one, and all these other ones. But then my inbox is so full ALL the time? And that drives me crazy. I really need to not follow EVERYONE who has ever started a blog.

    Have I ever stuck to my blogging schedule? *doubles over in laughter* Apparently it is a magical feat of incredible strength. I have all these good intentions when I write my blogging schedule but then I just abandon it and post whatever, whenever I feel like it.

    I hope the stress starts flying away soon, May! You deserve lots of mangoes and stress-free happiness! 💕

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  19. Formatting is the biggest drag of my life. Like, I’ve written a post.. do I really have to make it look nice and read-able as well?! I love the idea of just writing a post for yourself that you don’t need to publish- I’ve never considered that before! I’m definitely going to do that, sometimes it’s just good to get stuff off your chest. I love these tips, thank you!

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  20. may i have posts from last year that i haven’t replied to and at this point, idk if i ever will. i’m starting to hate past me because i used to be like “i hate blogs where the blogger replies to comments 4 months after you commented, like why would i even comment?” because i literally am that person i used to hate. i don’t thin i was understanding that people had lives!!! and comments could be stressful!! but i’m also jealous of past me who could reply to a comment within seconds bc hell, replying to a single DM is so draining for me!!

    formatting is hell. i wish wp could just do that for me tbh?? or like i could just highlight all the stuff i wanted to make big and bold and black?? idk something to make it easier to link and format images in general. but the bit about writing posts for yourself is such a good idea, i might try that out. i feel like it will be a mess though lmao. and dude i wanna see that crossed out post???

    lovely post! blog hopping can be very relaxing for me but only when i have time for it, like right now xx

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  21. I totally feel you on replying to comments. Sometimes I will have whole posts of comments build up and I will have to allocate a day to just replying to comments. It’s pretty dang stressful.
    It’s ridiculous that most us as book blogger actually struggle to find the time to read. I feel like the time we used to spend reading, we now spend blogging so now we’re comparing ourselves to what e used to be like vs now if that makes sense?

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  22. I can relate to all of these. Especially #2. Which is why I have never actually commented on your blog before (even though I have been reading all your posts…I SWEAR I AM NOT A CREEP!) But commenting in general scares me.
    And I’m still far behind when it comes to replying to comments because I just don’t feel like it.
    I used to follow 100+ blogs and that would drive me insane. And let’s not talk about formatting please.

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  23. Ahhh all of these May, though I stress less about reading nowadays (except when it comes to arcs lol), but your tips definitely work for me! I’ve just been blogging here and there when I felt like it and it’s worked soooo well. I’m a lot less stressed about blogging now and SO EXCITED again. I had barely any original ideas lately and now??? A document full of them and even some already (partly) written out.
    And omg commenting on other people’s posts?? My solution is to not read any posts when I don’t feel like commenting (whether it’s because I don’t want to interact because of my mental state or if I’m simply too tired). That does mean that I’m usually behind on reading posts which stressed me out a lot in the past, but now I’m just ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Taking it easy when it comes to blogging has put sooo much in perspective for me.
    Though to be honest maybe I’ve just been too stressed about my essays and other life stuff to be stressed about blogging 😂
    Hope your mental health will get better again soon May, your health is the most important thing ❤️

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  24. hahaha I think you summed it up! And I won’t expect you to reply soon to this comment even if I’ll be following you from now on because …kinship! I would add to the stress : social media. I am on FB, IG and Twitter as well as GR and following/commenting/liking takes its toll 😉

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  25. Thank you for this amazing, honest post May, I really feel a lot of those pressures! I’m usually only replying to comments once a week, because I can get a bit anxious by all the interaction, despite also being grateful and happy people are reading my posts – if that makes sense. Commenting on other people’s posts is something I always try to do, but I often get behind on that too 😮 My latest blogging pressure has been writing Reviews in addition to all the other blogging related tasks, it has been getting too much at times :/

    I also thank you for tips on how to lessen the pressure 💕 I have a hard time taking a break, but I do think it’s necessary sometimes to recharge. Self-Care is definitely very important! 💕 For me trying not to think too much ahead about what I will have to do in the future helps (if that makes sense). For me this means focusing on each day individually or maybe even the full week, but trying NOT to think about posts I need to write in two weeks.

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  26. I can relate to 100% of this. Although actually, for some reason I haven’t had so much trouble reading lately. Probably because I do it when I should be commenting back, lol.
    Actually, the comments can get really out of hand, and even if I have way less followers than you, I also still have comments from last month x.x it’s just… just NOOOOO. I didn’t know comments would be this hard to deal with! When there’s 100 per post it just goes to that whole new level of impossible 😀
    I actually wrote a post recently about the fact that we, and I mean our community of book bloggers, push ourselves entirely too much, and especially when it comes to writing all that content. We all should just let ourselves take a break already. Although I am not sure I can just allow myself to do that 😀 I haven’t really been on hiatus once. In all my nearly two years of blogging. Wow, huh. Why do I do this to myself 😀

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  27. To lessen you stress…we shall keep this comment short and shall wait patiently for your reply (or like even)!

    Just another booster to say “STAY HAPPY LITTLE CHERRY – DO NOT STRESS – BLOGGING IS FUN – KEEP IT FUN – TAKE THY TIME – YOUR HEALTH & HAPPINESS COMES FIRST!!”

    …now we’ll just read your posts and like ’em (‘cuz we do) and comment when we feel your pain or the feels are just to real!! 😊😊✊

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