4 Things You Shouldn’t Feel Guilty For or Beat Yourself Up Over as a Book Blogger (Coming From Personal Experience!)

This post is brought to you by me feeling in a preachy mood!

Just kidding, I hope this doesn’t come off as a really preachy post! More of like a, “YOU’RE GREAT AND YOU SHOULD THINK SO TOO” post, because I think we all need that reminder sometimes.

Today I’m going to be discussing something that I think a lot of bloggers struggle with: guilt, but I’m going to tell you why you shouldn’t beat yourself up over those things! Feeling guilty, while it can be a motivator can improve yourself, more often than not leads to people bringing themselves down, and it makes me so sad to see.

I got inspired to write this post after I saw some comments on the post I wrote on 10 pieces of advice I wish I’d given to my younger blogger self, when I touched on some things I felt bad about in blogging-wise!!

(I also recently read a blog post by Emme @ A Literary Latte that discussed the guilt we feel as readers, and I really liked it, so I wanted to share it with you all! Of course, this post isn’t the same as hers, and I definitely recommend reading it!)

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1. NOT INTERACTING

Oh, what’s that? Me calling myself out??

Yeah, you’re right. I’m calling myself out.

I’ve already talked several times before about how much guilt and self-hatred I went through because of my lack of interaction, and I’m not stopping!! Commenting on blog posts, replying to my own comments, commenting back—those were all things I struggled to do earlier this year and all of last year, because of I lacked time, energy, and motivation, and I also wasn’t in the right mental space to talk to people.

And I’m 100% a hypocrite for telling you, “Don’t feel guilty about not interacting,” because, hello, I’M still guilty, but seriously!!! There are so many reasons you might not able to interact as much, and that’s okay!! Feeling bad can motivate you to want to comment on things in order to get rid of that guilt, but if it crosses into beating yourself up over and over again (like what happened with me), it’s just so unhealthy for you.

I think most of the bloggers who I talked to struggled to interact because of their health, whether it be because their mental health in general was bad or that interacting drained so much out of them. But it’s truly, truly okay to prioritize your health over blogging; it’s a hobby, after all.

And to bloggers who can’t find the time to interact, you’re valid too!!! It sucks, knowing you could be doing so much more but not being able to, feeling guilty over it will just make you feel even worse.

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I haven’t used gifs in so long but this is appropriate (and cute)!!!

My tip to avoid feeling like you’re not interacting enough, because I’ve just so recently started being active again and feel like I could provide some semblance of advice: Take it one at a time! If it’s one blog post you reply to all the comments of, that’s an achievement. If it’s one blog post of someone else’s that you comment on, and that’s amazing too! (I’ve also found that if I push myself a tiny bit to do some interaction when I’m somewhat in the mood for it, I end up feeling a lot less drained than I started out! But if you ever feel like it’s too much, just stop!!)

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2. NOT READING ENOUGH

I think a lot of people in the online book community feel bad for never reading “enough” books, and it comes down to… a lot of comparison. Whether it’s comparing yourself to other people, or to yourself in the past, we all feel like there’s a certain amount of books we need to be reading, and when we don’t fulfill it, we feel bad. And even when we fulfill it, we feel the need to read even more.

And I especially think this guilt is so intense when so much of book bloggers’ content is focused on books. Add in the factor of not staying on top of the newest releases or the latest hyped books, and people feel like a failure.

What I think is the most important thing to remember is that: The amount you can read is very dependent on YOU and you only!! For example, I usually read around 100 books a year. For some people, that may be a huge amount of books, and for others, it might not be so much. So when we compare ourselves to others, we’re pretty much just comparing our own personal abilities to someone else’s personal abilities. WHICH ISN’T FAIR.

    
everyone has their own personal goals for their own abilities. also these are my two friends Ilsa and May. thank you for letting me use your challenges* even though I didn’t ask, and even though 1 book is a fake goal I still get my point across

I also think it’s important not to beat yourself up over not reading as much as you did the month before or the previous year. You’re a different person! You have new circumstances every day that will dictate whether or not you are able to read.

Plus, reading is something we all do for fun! While it may be beneficial to some to try and read a certain number of books, because it might mean pushing yourself to read as much as you can, it goes too far when you start bringing yourself down.

*I’m mad because Goodreads took down the page for a webcomic I read this year so I’m at one less read book than I’m supposed to be, and I applied to be a Goodreads Librarian SOLELY to add that webcomic back.

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3. NOT CREATING ENOUGH/QUALITY CONTENT

Obviously, probably a lot of content creators in general struggle with feeling like they’re not producing enough content, or quality enough content to sustain their audience. Whether or not you just want to keep blogging because you like it, or you’re ambitious and want to grow bigger, the worry and guilt that you’re not posting enough/good content is still there.

For me, my problem mainly was that I was still producing content, and content that I thought was good, but… never replying to the comments people left on it (which just meant it piled up even more). But I did go through a brief period of time where I didn’t post a lot of things, partly because of a hiatus and partly because I recovered horribly from said hiatus, and it made me feel terrible to see my struggle with blogging visually represented like this.

However, my mental health wasn’t good during that time, I struggled to find the time to blog because of school, and I was constantly stressed out and overwhelmed by schoolwork. Again, I can’t stress it enough, health and not draining your energy should be more of a priority than blogging.

Honestly, I think the most important thing about content is that you’re passionate about what you’re putting out there. Often, this means that the quality of your posts will actually increase on its own too!!

If you’re a planner when it comes to posts, and you look at the next few blog posts you have scheduled and don’t feel particularly excited about them, DON’T POST THEM!!!! I can’t tell you how many times I’ve started writing a post I was initially excited to write, and then later ditched because I started dreading it. Forcing yourself to write posts you don’t like, just to publish a post, can just make you hate blogging and feel even worse than you initially did.

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4. STATS

The dreaded word: statistics. God, stats are such a pain to deal with sometimes?? I think it can be nice to see which posts are doing well, and I enjoy looking at graphs in general, but if your numbers are suffering, and you like to analyze those numbers, it can make you feel really, really bad.

I’ve talked about this before, because I have absolutely no filter, but I’ll say it again! I did really well stats-wise in 2017 when I first started blogging, but when 2018 hit and I started being less active, instead of growing, my stats regressed, and I felt terrible about it. I still feel bad when I look at all the graphs WordPress provides, but I’m doing better once I realize that I’m producing my content in a healthy way.

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I also think some people feel bad about stats especially because they are so important to a lot of publishers when it comes to getting ARCs. So if your stats are “bad”, and you want to get ARCs, it’s a slap in the face because you think, Are publishers going to want to work with me because of this? Do they see that my blog stats are getting worse?

(Not even to mention how international bloggers can have the same stats as a US blogger, but the US blogger will could get twice as many ARCs than the INTL blogger could get, but that’s a discussion for another day.)

But—and I know everyone says it, but it’s TRUE—numbers aren’t everything. The amazing Marie @ Drizzle and Hurricane Books wrote a great discussion on what it means to be a successful blogger without basing success too much on numbers, and I think it’s so relevant to this.

Something that’s helped me personally is telling myself that the numbers are mostly out of my hands!! (At least in my unprofessional opinion, I don’t study statistics or anything.) I can affect it and helping increase or decrease it, by being in/active, promoting, etc., but I tell myself that my audience decides what posts to view, like, and comment on, and I shouldn’t worry about something out of my own control.


shall we chat

what do you feel guilty about as a book blogger? have you felt bad about any of the things I mentioned? how did YOU get over that guilt? or are you still struggling with it (in which case, reminder that I love you and you are doing SO GOOD!!!)

p.s. I hope this post wasn’t too preachy? (and if you read the whole giant post I’m proud of you lmao.) I just hate seeing bloggers beat themselves up over things like I did, and wanted to just gently remind you all that you’re human, and you’re doing amazing for a species that is pretty much wired to mess up all the time!!

p.p.s. DEADLINE FOR BOOK BLOGGER AWARDS NOMINATIONS IS THIS SATURDAY, GET ON IT!!!

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100 thoughts on “4 Things You Shouldn’t Feel Guilty For or Beat Yourself Up Over as a Book Blogger (Coming From Personal Experience!)

  1. I needed this!!! I actually got a comment the other day trying to get me to be homeschooled, because my blog would grow more because I’d have more time. They were basically saying they didn’t think I was working hard enough on my blog, just because I only post once a week. So thank you for posting this, I really needed to hear it ❤
    Also, to anyone random reading this: GET YOUR NOMINATIONS IN. N O W.

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  2. Wow May…are you just reading my mind?? This was such a fantastic post, and I know these are things we all know but it’s always great to get the reminder from others about how blogging is something for ourselves and we really shouldn’t care about numbers (or at least try not to care).

    I completely agree with you in all these things. We really shouldn’t ever be forcing ourselves to consume content or do things for the sake of doing them. If we’re powering through books to hit a goal, but not actually enjoying it…is it even worth it?? Same thing with blog hopping IMO. I feel like my best interactions with other people are when you’re genuinely just ~feeling~ it. Not just doing it for the sake of hoping they will comment back + increase numbers as a chore. I honestly feel like when you produce content that YOU genuinely enjoying creating…then the likes, comments, engagement, WHATEVER (a smol army maybe) will follow. Basically what I’m trying to say is I loved this post!!

    Also, the graphics and pictures in this post were spot on. IDK which I love more…the cute bear or stock image peace sign…

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    1. UGH I LOVE YOU SO MUCH TIFF 💗 I’m so glad this post was a good reminder for you, because you deserve to be reminded that you’re amazing!!!

      Yes, I so agree! Like I definitely read because I want to enjoy books, and while having goals is motivational personally, I don’t let it turn into a competition to read the most books, because quality > quantity for me!

      And I think with blog hopping, I might not necessarily be ~feeling~ it, but I like to do it just to leave a nice comment on someone else’s post in hopes of cheering up their day lmao (wow I’m a sap). But interacting solely to get something out of it is… definitely not good.

      Okay, the bear is very cute, but there is something just so appealing about the peace sign stock image. (I LOVE YOU!!!)

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  3. Feeling guilty about blog traffic or how many books you read is wasted energy. I’d rather worry about other things (like plastic pollution) than how many visitors I got to my blog. Only point I’m not 100% with you is about interaction. If you don’t do this then what is the point of having a blog – you could just keep a personal journey. But if you choose to use social media then the name gives you a clue – you need to be social and that means interacting

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    1. Yeah, I don’t worry too much about my stats now! It only gets bad when I compare it to my past self, because I feel like I should be growing and the numbers don’t indicate that lol (but I define growth in other ways too!). And ah, I have a certain opinion about interaction because I was really bad at it last year, and I beat myself up over it so much that it almost made me cry at times, so that’s why I think people shouldn’t feel so horribly guilty over it! But definitely interaction is what makes blogging fun and worth it imo. ❤

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  4. I needed this. Especially that thing about stats. (I also accidentally managed to delete my site from WordPress.com, so I can no longer access my sites there which is – prob a good thing for my mental health actually.)

    Thank you for writing this!

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  5. You’re so right with all of this! Sometimes I can really worry about stats, then I have to remind myself I do this to enjoy myself so it should not matter!

    (www.evelynreads.com)

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  6. Oh my goodness, this post is like the equivalent of a warm hug–thank you for writing it, May!! And I love you point about discarding draft posts if you don’t have passion to finish them. My draft folder is a MESS of unfinished posts that I was super excited about writing but now I’m kind of “meh” about, and I don’t have the heart to actually delete them. But you’re so right–writing posts should be fun and not something that we do just for the sake of it. I wish I could like this post a hundred times! ❤

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    1. Aw, KATHY!! I’m so glad you liked the post 😭💕 Yes, my drafts are like that too!! So many of them are like half-completed, and I feel bad for not going back to them, but I just honestly don’t feel excited to write them anymore and don’t want to force it ☺ Aw, you are too sweet!!! Thank you so so much 💖

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  7. GREAT POST! (as usual)
    i honestly used to feel guilty about all of this, especially in the first few months of blogging (you know, in my old blog), but it improved when i realised that blogging is a hobby before anything else, and not getting that ARC isn’t the end of the world. so now blogging feels much easier and healthier. it actually does help me sometimes, while it used to be a kind of pressure. i’m proud of myself for realizing this!! and i think everyone should come to these conclusions you mentioned. because while it can be stressing, especially if you have deadlines or so, it’s still something we decided to do for fun in the first place you know? :))

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    1. AAHH THANK YOU MAHA!! And yes exactly! Blogging is a hobby and something we do for fun, and reminding myself that has definitely helped me feel a lot more relaxed about it. And I’m so proud of you for being more relaxed towards blogging as well!! 💕

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  8. What a lovely post, May, thanks for sharing. I think it’s so important to not feel guilty about how much you do or don’t read. Pressuring yourself to read just makes it not fun and that’s not good!
    I try not to think about stats too much, and yes, it’s very hard to not let yourself get caught up in a stats mine train, but it’s better to just have fun and NOT WORRY about a list of numbers!

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  9. AUGH! Now, I feel bad because I was just telling you how much I’ve read this year. I hope I didn’t offend or hurt you! And if I did, I’m so, so sorry!!

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  10. Love this post!! I sometimes feel guilty about the number of books I am able to read and the number of times I post. It usually takes me a month to get through 1 book, and I only post 3 times a month on the blog, and I used to feel like a bad book blogger because of it. I’m feeling a lot less guilty lately since I’ve been reading posts from fellow book bloggers dealing with serious burnout. I’m reading and posting at a pace that works for me and my schedule, and I know the people who like me and the blog will come. I will be here waiting when they do! 🙂

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    1. Ah, I’m sorry you feel that guilt!! 1 book and 3 posts a month is great — reading and blogging should all be done at our own paces and you’re doing amazing ❤ And yes, burning out is a really terrible feeling, so sticking to what works for you is the best so you don't push yourself too far!! 💗

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  11. I love everything about this post! It’s so great to have a reminder about these things sometimes. I’ve definitely had times that I feel guilty about not interacting or posting enough, but you’re so right that health is SO MUCH MORE IMPORTANT than any of those things. And stats are the worst! I’ve been guilty of obsessing over them, but I’m constantly trying not to let them get to me. Thanks for these wonderful reminders! 😄❤️

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    1. Aahh I’m so happy you loved the post!! And yes, your health is so much more important than blogging, which is hard but so necessary to accept! ❤ I'm glad you're still trying not to obsess over stats — it's really difficult, but if it makes you feel happier, it's worth it!!

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  12. This was a great post and I could relate to it so much!! I’ve noticed that with blogging there is always something more you could be doing so it can be hard to relax as you feel guilty but that shouldn’t be the case as you do as much as you want.
    I always feel like I don’t read enough and I’m always behind on new releases but there isn’t a right amount of books to read.
    At the minute I am posting less as I haven’t been excited to write and I was worried about it and it can lead to a lot of pressure on yourself. But you are so right with your advice– its your blog and you should feel free to do what you want– it’s you choice. And you should prioritise self care– it is so important.
    I loved how you talked about all these things and the advice you gave– SO GOOD!! Great post– thank you for writing this!! 💕

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    1. Ah thank you so much, Sophie!! It really does feel like as a blogger you could be commenting on posts or finding new blogs or writing a post or replying to comments, and when you’re not doing that, it feels like you’re a failure. 😭 And ah no, you definitely shouldn’t feel like you have to make yourself post more, especially when you don’t have the motivation to! I’ve went through that so many times and it feels so much better when I just take a step back and not force it ❤

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  13. I’ve felt guilty in the past about using a text to speech app to have my phone read a book to me. I’ve been told that this isn’t reading and that you don’t get any of the emotion that an audio book gives you. I think most of these comments came from my non reading friends, so what do they know. I really enjoy the way that I read and I’ve read some posts recently that helped me realize that a lot of my favorite bloggers use audio books and other forms of reading to review their books. I’m ok with how I do things now.

    Check out my blog, Book Confessions of an ExBallerina, to see Reviews of books, movies and recipes.

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    1. Oh no, I’m so sad to hear you felt guilty about using a text to speech app, and that people tell you it’s not real reading! That’s completely false and rude (and ableist as well 😔) — and I’m glad you’re feeling less guilty about reading audiobooks! I think audiobooks are super cool and a great way to read books ☺💕

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  14. But May, I feel guilty about all of these things! 😭 Mostly, I’m guilty of not reading enough books. I feel this way because I see a lot of other bloggers posting book lists and recommendations, and I don’t think I’ve read enough to do those kinds of things. I often feel like my viewers would want to see me make lists, but most (if not all!) of the books I have read recently are backlist books. I’m still catching up on popular books from 2017, and even when I read those, so has everyone else! I know this isn’t really something I can fix right away, but I often feel sad that I can’t give my viewers good recommendations because of this.

    But I sometimes get over this feeling when I tell myself that I’m still doing my best 🙂 Everyone has their own “best”, and it’s important to remind ourselves of this all the time. So thank you for all these gentle reminders! ❤️

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    1. Aw, I’m so sorry you feel guilty about all these things, Xandra!! I definitely relate to how you feel — I’m lucky to be able to read newer books, but I also love reading backlist books, which unfortunately aren’t as popular as the latest releases. But I’m sure your readers would love any recommendations from you! A backlist book doesn’t mean it’s bad, and as readers I think we all are looking for good books, no matter how old they might be ☺💖

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  15. This post means so much to me, May, thank you. I am sososo guilty of being my own worst critic and holding myself to really unrealistic expectations and then beating myself up about it when I inevitably “fail.” I’ve been letting my comments pile up for the past few months, and I do my best to try to reply within a week now. My energy is just so sporadic and I swear as soon as I get caught up, I’m drained for a week! LOL.

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    1. Kal!!! I’m so happy this post meant something to you 😭💖 You are an amazing blogger and amazing person, no matter what you’re able to do. I’m so proud of you for attempting to reply to comments in a week — that’s a great goal and achievement! I hope you’ll feel less guilty about all these things in the future too 💕

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  16. I feel guilty about most of these things especially the “feeling guilty about interacting with other bloggers” and “not reading enough” 😦 I’ve been ~blogging~ for years, but it was only recently that I took it really seriously. It’s like starting from scratch again, but not really. I feel like I’m not interacting enough when I already try! One of the other things that I feel guilty about that isn’t here is writing the damn book review!! Because sometimes I’m in the reading zone and just want to start with a new book right after I finish one. There’s this gnawing pressure to write write write. *sighs* can’t help but beat myself up over this.

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    1. Ah, I’m sorry you’ve been feeling guilty, lovely!! I hope that guilt lessens, you’re doing amazing work 💗 And aahh I actually was considering putting in “not writing book reviews” as a source for guilt but decided against it because my post was already so long lmao! I definitely struggle with writing reviews — I only have time to write the ones I absolutely have to, for ARCs and blog tours 😭

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      1. YES YES YES to writing reviews!! I’ve been so behind writing reviews 😦 Call it lazy writing, but so far, all I could do is muster up the motivation to write AT LEAST mini reviews 😦 I’ve been feeling a bit under the weather lately so it also doesn’t help. HUHU *gives you bookish hug*

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  17. Oh wow, I didn’t know how much I needed this until I read it! I just finished my first year of university, where I basically got ZERO reading and blogging done. I always came home feeling physically and mentally exhausted, and I didn’t want to push my brain to do more work even though I felt so guilty for leaving my blog unattended. What’s worse for me is that I used to be SO active in the community, juggling co-blogging for three different blogs and still coming out with 2 posts a week for each — but now I can’t even find the time to read a 300-page book for myself, and not for school.

    Of course, I know that my health matters more, and I know my posts would sound forced if I pushed myself to write them. Balancing everything is so hard, but health trumps everything.

    Thanks so much, lovely!

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    1. Aahh, Aimee! I’m glad this post was good for you 💗 I’m glad to see you’re back to blogging again, but I’m so sorry to hear about how exhausted you were! I think all of us would rather see you as healthy as possible than blogging, and I’m glad you prioritized your health over blogging. But I definitely get where you come from — comparing yourself to your past self can make you feel really horrible, and I hope that you don’t feel too guilty, because you’re doing amazing!! 💖

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  18. THANKS SO MUCH FOR SHARING MY POST MAY💕💕
    Loved this post, it serves as such a good reminder and one to save for rereading when needed. Even though I’m a new book blogger, I definitely relate to the things you mentioned.
    I recently went away for about a week or so and didn’t manage to schedule any posts and felt so guilty so I particularly relate to not creating ‘enough’ content. Holidays for me comes with guilt surrounding interaction also – travelling means I get behind on blog hopping/commenting which sucks because I love doing it & it’s my favourite part of blogging! But it’s definitely important to remember that as blogging is just a hobby, and so shouldn’t come with any guilt!

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    1. OF COURSE!!! I loved the post 💕

      Yes! Just taking one week off from posting anything fills me with so much stress and guilt, which is definitely not healthy. I think in our society, we’re trained to think that if we’re not constantly doing x thing, we’re failing x thing, which is a horrible mindset. But definitely — blogging is a hobby (for pretty much most book bloggers since not many of us get paid lol) and we shouldn’t stress ourselves out too much over it 💕

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  19. May, I am LOVING your guide posts hahaha, please feel free to do more of them if you want to! Ugh same to all of these, especially stats. Honestly, I feel bad for even caring about stats because I know that it’s not something that you should care about. I have this weird mentality that every day my blog doesn’t get a new follower is a day wasted, and I am so mad at myself for thinking that because it’s so not true, and I shouldn’t base my blog’s success on the number of followers! And same, I am very much a quality over quantity type of person when it comes to posts. I really will not post something I don’t enjoy writing, but the problem is that i take soooo long to write just one post, probably 3 hours honestly, which is so unhealthy. so that’s why I cant really post often and I feel really bad about that sometimes! I definitely feel the same about replying to comments, and I feel so bad about this, but sometimes I get overwhelmed by them, especially the long ones (i’m sorry May this is a long comment ahha). don’t get me wrong, I LOVE COMMENTS SO MUCH AND I CAN’T BELIEVE THAT PEOPLE ACTUALLY TOOK THE TIME TO WRITE SOMETHING. but…. it’s like they are saying the kindest things and I don’t know how to respond with the same amount of kindess and properly convey how thankful I am that they stopped by. so i basically just exposed myself in this comment lol, but this post was so good that I just had to!

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    1. Aw, CAITLIN!!! You are so sweet to me ❤ And no, I'm so sorry to hear you feel that way about stats! It's 100% false that not getting a new follower every day is a sign of a wasted day. I think it's definitely okay to care about stats and want good stats as long as it doesn't become unhealthy 💖

      And aahh noo, take your time with writing posts!! I often find that readers care more about the quality of posts than the amount of times you post. And lmao, I think my average time to write a post is 2 to 3 hours, but sometimes I go way overboard and spend 5+ 😅 I feel you about comments, though! They can get really overwhelming, and I just need to train myself to reply to them ASAP, because I love reading them right away but just… don't respond 😭

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  20. You know, May, I think it’s the first time I read a blog post like this one and feel like crying. Not in a bad way, honestly, just in a, I f***ing needed to read this today, every single day of my life, way.
    Okay. Pick yourself up off the floor now Marie. Aerm.
    I think I suffer the most from the interaction guilt part, which might seem completely silly or strange, because people really praise me for my interaction skills and it’s something I am really happy to see and something I am always, always happy to do, too because I ADORE the community and genuinely want to read my friends and blogs I love’s posts, want to share my thoughts with them, comment, interact, feel part of it all. Yet I know, I know deep down that this is taking a serious hit on my mental health sometimes, some days, like after spending my 8 to 5 day at work + commuting for an hour and yet somehow wanting, needing, feeling that guilt when I’m just too tired to interact and just want to crash and sleep or something. Same goes for the amount of books I read. I know, reasonably, that I’m able to go through some great books in a month while working and everything and still…. this feeling that I need to read more, to do more, to produce more…. it’s all overwhelming some days.
    I’m just ranting away here and I apologize, but thank you because I needed to read this today, thank you ❤ ❤
    (and thank you for mentioning my post, you are way, way too sweet. I love you, take care of yourself May, you're the best <3)

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    1. Marie, I swear to god I almost teared up reading your comment. I am so, so touched this post resonated so strongly with you 💖

      And wow, it made me so sad to hear about that pressure you’re feeling to interact? I think I speak on behalf of all bloggers when I say this, but you are absolutely not obligated to do as much as you do for the community. It really, truly is okay to take a break and make some time for yourself. We recognize your hard work, because it’s amazing that you do what you do when you’re juggling so much, but it’s not something we Expect from you all the time, because it’s impossible to keep all of it up and not burn out. I love you so much and I HATE to see your mental health taking a toll, so I really really hope you can figure out a balance that works for you so you can just de-stress 💗

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      1. Thank you, May, you’re the sweetest and your words mean so much 💗 I just feel, well, I know that I am the problem and I am the one putting all of these expectations on myself on my own and… it’s hard to stop, haha. But I’m trying to re-think about all of these things, have been lately and will be more this summer with my holidays and break and time away from the blog to hopefully feel better about it all and just, organize myself better about it without feeling all the guilt. Thank you, really, I needed this post so much. 💗

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  21. stats and not reading “enough” are definitely my biggest guilts as a book blogger. my reading pace has decreased SO MUCH in the past few years and I don’t read nearly as much as I used to, and even when I could read fast, I could never read 200+ books like some book bloggers, but now that I’m reading even less it makes me feel bad a lot of the time.

    stats I think are something most book bloggers struggle with. it’s hard when most people who share their stats are bloggers who get a ton of views, because it’s hard to know then what a realistic expectation is when it comes to stats. I feel like I never know if I’m on target for the following I have or if I should be doing way better than I am and it definitely gets me down sometimes.

    thank you for this post, and I truly hope you can allow yourself some freedom from feeling guilt about these things; your blog is lovely ❤

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    1. I’m so sorry you feel guilty about not reading “enough”!! It’s totally okay that you’re reading less now than you used to — there are so many factors that might have changed and influenced you to not be able to read as much. But I definitely get how you feel, comparing yourself to other bloggers and how fast they can read ❤

      Yes, I feel that so much!! I used to share my stats when I first started blogging, but I stopped when I realized no one really needed to know and that it could make people feel bad. Sometimes I wish I knew the "average" stats of a blogger with my follower count, but I know it would only lead me to compare and make things worse.

      And aahh thank you so much, Mel, you are so sweet, and I hope you can feel less guilty about these things too 😭💖

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  22. This is a seriously amazing post, May! It definitely made me feel better about blogging in general, and I know it did the same for others too, so thank you for that.💖

    All of these struggles are so REAL, and they’re something that I don’t think many people expect to ever feel, but then they happen and we realize that they’re so so present in blogging. It’s so easy for me to get stuck in the comparison game with stats or books or interaction, not only by comparing myself to other bloggers but by comparing myself to…myself.

    I always try to remember that blogging is just a hobby, but since it’s a hobby I love so much, it’s hard to dismiss it that lightly. Thank you for this reminder to take it easy on myself and try harder not to feel guilty over all of this. ❤

    Also, YOU ARE DOING AMAZING TOO AND WE ALL LOVE YOU <33

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    1. Aw, Olivia!! Thank you so much, I’m really happy it could lift your spirits ❤

      Oh yes, comparison is so so hard, both with others and myself. Sometimes I feel like comparing me to myself is even worse than comparing me to others, because I know what I'm capable of, and knowing that I'm not reaching that is worse than me not reaching someone else's level of capability.

      But yes, blogging is 100% a hobby! It's hard not to get so caught up about it, but it's definitely important to ease off on yourself a little, because you're amazing ❤

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  23. Awww this post speaks to me so much, May! Although I’ve been working it, I’ve still been feeling so much guilt over not interacting enough, posting, or reading as much this year! My life has been so busy lately, and this unfortunately means my blog has to suffer a bit in the activeness department. Thank you so much for reminding me that I just need to take everything one step at a time, and not condemn myself for putting aside what little free time I have for things other than blogging.

    Love you, May!!! 💕

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    1. Ah no, Kelly! I’m so sorry you’re feeling this guilt!! Taking care of yourself by making sure not to overwork yourself with blogging, while you have so much going on in your life, is so so important. You’re doing an amazing job of blogging, and we all will be here for you no matter how active you are!! ❤

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  24. I completely agree with what you’re saying. I think what I feel the worst about is creating content because I always tell myself that 1) it’s not good enough 2) if there is an existent similar post about “”this”” somewhere in the universe, why should I try to write something that won’t even be that good ? like what’s the point ? Luckily, I’m slowly growing out of this and I think I should just create what I want, despite the fact a similar post exists (plus, statistically it’s almost impossible to write something completely UNiQuE so yeah) or that it’s probably better. Also, stats ! BOY OH BOIIII. I’ve only just started blogging this year but sometimes, seeing that no one sees what I post . just makes me sad ? I’m still learning about getting over it and being happy with myself and what I put out 🙂 Amazing post !!!

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    1. Ah I’m sorry to hear that you’ve been struggling with some guilt about creating content — but I’m happy that it’s lessening! And even if someone’s posted something similar to what you want to post, you should still do it; your voice matters and you should post whatever you want ❤ And I'm really glad you're learning to be happy with yourself and what you put out! That's such an important thing to do, and I've found that even though I still struggle with guilt over these things, learning how to do that has made my experience a lot better 💕

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  25. Ugh, so so true! I still struggle with most of these (both the thinking they’re not worth worrying over, and then worrying over them LOL) but I try to just relax and let things flow naturally.
    Like you, I had HUGE amounts of traffic and engagement when I first started. I read A LOT more. I was everywhere on the blogosphere and it brought me so much JOY. But I remind myself that was when I was student, living by myself, with more time in my hands and no full-time job.
    Nowadays, I can’t interact all that much and even if it pains me, I have to accept it’s just the way it is. I would have to clone myself over and over to be able to take care of everything XD Which is all good, I mean, as long as we’re having fun and have a purpose to do what we do – that’s what matters!
    Amazing post, May ❤ ❤ ❤

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  26. wow I related so much to this post and it is so so important for like, every blogger to read, now? i definitely beat myself up for not interacting enough/reading enough, which really sucks and which i honestly need to stop doing? i also beat myself up for not producing great content, especially when i compare my content to other bloggers’s content which i find stellar. thankfully, i’ve never felt particularly guilty about stats, though i do have my times when i wish they were higher (i do move past those times though). i normally just do that by forgetting that they’re a thing and minimizing how often i check them! something i feel guilty about in blogging is not scheduling enough posts in advance. i constantly beat myself up if i don’t have at least 3+ posts scheduled in advance at any given time, and when i don’t have 2+ posts scheduled ahead, i get a lot of anxiety and stress (which feels so dumb? omg). i also loved emme’s post a whole lot, it was fantastic! sorry for this long comment but yeah i loved this post and it’s really quality! ily and your posts so much & hope you’re having the loveliest day 💖💖

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  27. Thank you for this lovely uplifting post! It’s a breath of fresh air – sometimes I get caught up reading articles about what I *should* be doing as a book blogger. So it’s wonderful to read a post about what I should chill out about instead!!! P.s. I’m aware of the irony of commenting on a post about the expectations of interaction – no pressure to reply 😊
    📕MP📚

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  28. I definitely needed to read this today. Lately my stats, or lack there of, have relly been putting me in a funk. It’s something I need to not worry about so much. I made my blog for my enjoyment and hopefully the enjoyment of others. I just need to have fun with it 🙂 Thank you for posting this!!!

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  29. Wow. I don’t know that I need to read and understand these until I read your post, May. I can totally relate to everything that you mentioned above, but especially for not interacting and not reading enough. I often feel like a jerk for abandoning comments/mentions, but the truth is I don’t do it on purpose and I’m just so exhausted to keep up with everything that happened in this community. And I’m not saying it in a bad way because it’s totally exciting to be part of it, but mainly I just feel bad because I always feel so left behind in everything. And even for one time that I actually do something (either creating contents, writing reviews, keep up with my readings), I feel I’m not being good enough and I’m back to being MIA. But enough with my rants! THIS IS A GREAT POST, MAY! Thank you for pointing it out!

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  30. This is a lovely post! I agree with all of it. I’ve felt guilty about some of this too. Heck, just this week I didn’t post for 7 days and was like OH NO! but realized it really doesn’t matter. Those worries are always in the back of my mind but as long as I just remind myself to have fun and that it’s just a hobby, they’ll go away.

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  31. Thank you for this post, May! It’s difficult not to get caught up in stats, and not posting enough is definitely something I’ve been frustrated with myself over before. But ultimately it’s not really important. What’s important is your health and doing a hobby you enjoy when you want to enjoy it ❤

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